A tale of two strong moms

May 10 2015 2:40 PM

Trish Yap and Zsa-Zsa Zorilla have so many things in common.

Their penchant is both into writing, as manifested by the program they chose to pursue in college. Trish, 22, graduated with a journalism degree in 2014, while Zsa-Zsa, 27, will walk the stage end-May for the same degree.

The two ladies are also both stunners; having graced catwalks in ornate wardrobes and posed for model photo shoots.

Both have joined a beauty pageant in their school, and in a perfect show of how beautiful they are, Trish and Zsa-Zsa easily walked with the crown.

Beyond the bounds of school activities, Trish and Zsa-Zsa also share a somehow similar fate that ferried them to the ultimate role of being a woman: motherhood.

Trish is a mother to Ella, an intelligent girl who looks like the younger version of her pretty mom; while Zsa-Zsa is the mother to eight-year-old Sophia, a kid who always bright her mom’s day with a flashy smile.

 

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Trish with daughter Ella

 

Another striking similarity between the two is the fact that they raised their respective daughters sans the help of the men whom they played fired with.

“I won’t call him as the dad of my daughter Sophia. The proper term for him is sperm donor,” said a sweaty Zsa-Zsa in an interview at a gym in Manila.

Trish, meanwhile, chose not to speak of Ella’s father.

But the fruit of their intercourse with the men was never regretted by the two strong mothers.

“The biggest joy of being a mother is experiencing and giving real love everyday, without having to doubt it,” said Trish, who is now happily juggling her schedule between her work in an advertising agency and taking care of Ella.

 

*Bumps, humps*

Nothing worth having comes so easy.

Such is true for the two, who have had a fair share of challenges in rearing their children.

Trish found it difficult to bear with people whom she thought would use her being a single mom an ace her against her.

“I was more afraid of people using that fact against me. And they always did. It was something to talk about, something about me that wasn’t simply just gossip,” Trish said.

“People used it to bring me down, to shame me,” she added.

Trish got pregnant in high school and entered college when her daughter entered early childhood stage.

“For years, I tried to keep it within my circle of friends. And then I realized I shouldn’t feel ashamed of myself, I was able to raise a little girl and still continue living the life I should live,” Trish said, declaring that it was her parent who served as rock in the trying times of her life.

Trish now says she mastered the craft of not giving a damn on people who love to feast on someone else’s life.

“Now, when people shame me for being a single and young mom, I [just] brush it off. I know better. I am the bigger and stronger person. And they are not moms who what do they know?” Trish said in jest.

She also found it challenging to raise two selves: her daughter and herself.

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Trish and Ella

 

“Being a mom at such a young age, it was always difficult for me to raise a child while also ‘raising myself.’ I had a lot to learn, I still do and it’s always been a challenge to be able to raise her and feel like I still
have no idea about the bigger part of life. But we get by, step by step, together,” she said.

For Zsa-Zsa, it was her studies that were compromised.

“I have to find a job for my daughter, and for my siblings,” said Zsa-Zsa, who is the third in a siblings of nine.

“Hindi naman kami mayaman. I have to step up to let my younger siblings study also,” she added.

Zsa-zsa got pregnant when she was 18, during the second semester of college. She had no choice but to stop schooling and find job that would finance her needs and that of her daughter and siblings.

Zsa-Zsa then hopped companies in Makati, until she settled in a multinational company.

Years later, her non-Filipino boss would grant her a scholarship to send her back to college, and in 2011, she returned to the university to resume her studies in journalism.

It was when things were falling into its proper places, but fate again
seemed not to conspire with Zsa-Zsa’s plans.

She had a falling out with her own mother, and asked Zsa-Zsa to take Sophia with her.

“Medyo hindi kami okay ng mom ko dati. I was the black sheep talaga of the family. So ang sabi niya, kapag nag-aral na ako, isama ko raw si Sophia,” she said.

And then she did. Zsa-Zsa rented an apartment in Sampaloc, hired a nanny for Sophia, and continued with her life as student.

Inside the classroom, she is the mother figure of her classmates, giving them advice about life and helping his young troubled blockmates to sort things out.

Her being a mom continues when she gets home to Sophia, whom she said is a very mature and understanding girl.

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Zsa-zsa with daughter Sophia

 

But after some months of juggling, Zsa-Zsa admitted to having difficulties in her daily grind, thus prodding her to call her mom if it would be fine to bring Sophia back in their paternal home in Cavite.

“Iba talaga ‘pag nanay eh. Maiintinidihan at maiintindihan ka. When I called my mom, sinabi niya oo agad,” Zsa-Zsa said of her reconciliation with her mom.

For years now, Zsa-Zsa would go home every weekend to spend time with Sophia and her own mom.

 

*Maturity, kindness*

Years of being single and young moms taught Trish and Zsa-Zsa very important lessons in life. So does to their children.

For Zsa-Zsa, she would always tell Sophia to be constantly happy, and to be not rude to other people.

For herself, Zsa-Zsa said she does not see the reason to hide her daughter from the crowd.

“Wala akong pakialam sa mga sinasabi ng tao kasi napalaki ko ng maayos si Sophia. I have a pretty and intelligent daughter,” she said.

“I am a good mom because I have a very good daughter. She is mature. Parang hindi eight years old,” she added, saying that her daughter would discuss life problems with her oftentimes.

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Zsa-zsa and Sophia

 

The two would talk about such things over their favorite bonding moment: eating chocolates over movie marathon.

Trish, meanwhile, instills the virtue of kindness to Ella.

“I always tell her that it is always important to be kind. She used to say kids at her school always pick a fight with her and I always tell her to speak up nicely,” she said.

It is a show of how Trish teaches the very traits that guided her to being a strong single mom.

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Trish’s daughter, Ella

 

“I try to teach her stand up for herself but in a manner that would not offend anyone. I think that’s an important lesson for kids, to be able to say what they feel or defend themselves, without having to fight physically
or verbally,” said Trish.

Trish and Zsa-Zsa have many things in common.

They are both single yet strong moms.

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